Band Slam: Graphic Tees

Let’s talk about every day fashion. I’m referring to those days where you need to relax, run errands and complete the basic functions of everyday life. My go-to outfit for days spent at the grocery store is a band graphic t-shirt, comfortable jeans and sneakers.

I will link everything, or similar items, in the description below! Let me know what you wear on your “errand days”.

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Outfit Details: J. Crew Jeans (similar), Guns ‘N Roses top (similar), Flannel (similar), bandanna (similar), Converse. 

 

 

The Power of Friendship: Life Update

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Hi everyone! It’s been awhile since new content was posted here on Lovely Dusk. My life has been swept up into a spiral of change and my priorities had to shift for a bit.

If you’ve been keeping up with my Instagram stories, you know that my apartment flooded three times in the past month. Twice from flooding due to rain and once from a broken water heater. My roommate and I have had a whale of a time dealing with the damages while starting our new jobs.

A few days ago, we received a call from our leasing company saying that we could move to a new apartment the next day. In 24 hours, we signed for a new apartment, packed up our bags and moved to a brand new space in town.

We couldn’t have done any of this without our friends and family.

The outpouring of love and support from family and friends, both old and new, was absolutely astounding. People traveled across the state to come and help us move. We were blessed.

The takeaway from this experience? It’s easy to see the negative news going on globally and not believe in hope. It’s easy to judge your neighbor based on a social media post. It’s easy to see the world as a bland place, but then something like this happens. When people bond together to simply help one another. Where unity and friendship collide to make a beautiful masterpiece.

So hold on to those friends who would help you move. Hold on to family members who drop everything to come to your rescue. Hold on to hope, because God is always watching over you.

That is the power of family and friendship.

 

xx,

Rebecca

 

 

Bible Verses to Help Combat Loneliness and Strengthen Friendship

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Friendships are a tricky avenue of life. They ebb and flow, they grow strong, they break, they dissolve. Friends keep you on your toes. They make you think outside the box. Friends entertain, thrill, admonish and encourage.

Recently, I’ve moved to a brand new city for a job. People move time and time again, but I didn’t realize how different and perhaps lonely a new city could be. Now, I am extremely grateful to Jesus for bringing my college roommate and I together again in this new town. The housing hunt, move and day – to – day would be more difficult with someone I didn’t know.

For all of you out there in the same situation as me (a tad lonely, homesick and anxious) I have a few tidbits of hope for you. This isn’t a how – to list or a city guide, but a list of a few Bible verses about loneliness and friendship that can help you put this new stage of life into perspective.

Friendship

1 Corinthians 15:33 –  Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”

Colossians 3: 12 – 14 – Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Proverbs 12:26 – The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.

Loneliness

Deuteronomy 31:6 –  Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

Psalm 25:16-17 – Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted. Relieve the troubles of my heart and free me from my anguish.

1 Peter 5:6-7  Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

May God bless you my friends in your time of need. May He lift up your spirit and encourage your heart. 

Feel free to comment below with any insights!

In His name,

Rebecca

INSPIRE: 5 Tips to Make the Lunch Hour Workout Work For You

Welcome to the next installment of the INSPIRE series. This fitness piece is by the motivational Cory. Enjoy & share!

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If I have learned anything since joining the “adult world” it is that having a traditional 8-5 schedule is great! I love having a routine and thrive when I can plan ahead and set goals and expectations. However, one thing I didn’t realize is just how hard it can be to get everything that needs doing done! Between cleaning and home maintenance, work, friends, my boyfriend, pets, family, personal time, it can feel like a lot to balance. And since I’m not an early bird or a night owl, it leaves me with a pretty small window of time to be productive. That is why a few months ago I started using my lunch hour as my workout hour! I found a spinning studio up the street from my office, and started spinning for 45 minutes twice a week.

I fell in love with the lunch hour workout! At first I was worried about being the sweaty, smelly girl in the office, but with a little learning and a little prep, I was able to master getting in my fitness while increasing my work productivity.

  1. Plan ahead – Know what you are doing! Pack your gym bag the night before and give it a once over in the morning just in case you missed something. Know where your workout is, where you can park, and what you need to do to make it happen. Eat a good breakfast, and always bring your lunch! That way you can ensure it’s healthy and not feel crunched for time. And finally, make sure the studio you choose has the amenities you need, like parking or maybe a shower and locker room.
  2. Find something you can do in 30-45 minutes – Ideally, your workout should be no more than 5 minutes from your workplace. No studio nearby? Find a great running trail or use nearby outdoor space to DIY your own workout with stairs, running, body weight exercises, and a yoga mat!
  3. Pack more than the essentials – Don’t zip up your workout bag once you’ve got the must haves in there. Go beyond the normal ponytails, workout clothes, and running shoes. Why? Because the more comfortable you are, the easier it is to say “YES” when your lunch hour comes around. Extras I like? Body lotion, sunblock, extra underwear, blotting papers, and allergy meds.
  4. Get your desk ready – I purchased a small desktop fan to help cool down after my workout. Stock your drawers with power up snacks for pre and post workouts like fresh fruits and nuts. Keep water at your desk throughout the day to keep yourself hydrated and help you get the most out of your workout. Keep a yoga mat and an extra set of shoes and workout wear so you never have an excuse to miss!
  5. Dress for success – Want in on my #1 secret? Start your day wearing your sports bra under a flowy dress with easy to slip on/off sandals. When the time to workout comes, it will be easy to slip out of your dress and into your workout wear. Then, you can put on a fresh, traditional bra afterwards. This will save you tons of time and mental stress of getting into the lunch hour workout mindset!

I know once I started using my lunch hour to workout, I have found it a lot easier to focus in the afternoon. The afternoon slump is like a distant dream for me. Since I’ve moved offices, I’m no longer near the spin studio, but I now do a boot camp twice a week and go on runs the other 3 days, since I’m training for an upcoming 10k! So instead of scrolling endlessly through your social media tomorrow at noon, or spending lots of money at a restaurant, lace up your sneakers and do something active and make the most of your lunch hour.

 

Cory is a web developer for a marketing company. She is a Louisiana girl at heart, but currently calls the Midwest home. Cory is a passionate vegan and fur mama to 2 cats and 3 dogs. On summer weekends you can find her spending the day on the water or planting flowers in her yard and drinking sweet tea. A life-long procrastinator, she is navigating her way through life trying to find a work/life balance and still get laundry done.

INSPIRE: 6 Steps to Becoming an Effective Leader

Welcome to the next installment of the INSPIRE series. This piece is written by Matt, a driven leader who wants to share his insight with others. Enjoy & share!

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I say this in two parts: first, the overarching theme that I am about to share with you is not groundbreaking, though it is my goal to shine it in a different light through my experiences. Second, and most importantly, I have failed numerous times in individual opportunities to lead others effectively; however, without these trying moments I would have never gained some of the most valuable lessons that I have to share with you. I do not claim to be a perfect leader, but I do claim to be an individual who strives each day to serve others better than I did the day before. The following are just a few of the lessons that I have learned. I hope that they help you as much as they’ve helped me!

“An effective leader will always pass the recognition onto the general body…”

  1. Leadership is a mindset. Many people will claim that “leaders” posses a certain talent or skill. However, I have found that leadership is more so dependent on a state of mind. While personality traits such as confidence, innovation, and decisiveness may enhance an individual’s potential to be a great leader, even the most skilled individuals may not be able to lead if they aren’t willing to put others before themselves. Effective leaders shift the focus from themselves onto those whom they are serving. Every action that you take within your role should be taken with the intention of benefiting the people or organization that you are serving.
  2. Find your role. As a leader, you will have a large influence in determining the direction that your organization takes. The question arises: How can you effectively lead without knowing your own role? Without a true understanding of your position, your potential as an effective leader will remain untapped because the time and energy that you invest into the organization will lack structure. Luckily, many organizations have a written description of their positions and the roles assigned to each. Read them. Additionally, ask your fellow members how they would like to see you integrate your leadership abilities in the organization. No matter how established your organization may be, your members will be satisfied knowing that they picked the right person to represent them if you let them play a role in determining how you lead the organization.
  3. Set realistic goals. After you have defined your role as a leader, take some time with your members to facilitate the establishment of the organization’s goals. These goals should be measurable and under the control of your organization. I recommend setting no more than five goals at a time so you will be able to pay proper attention to each of them individually.
  4. Follow through. Once you have listed your organization’s goals, now comes the time to plan out exactly how you are going to accomplish them. Though it may seem odd at first, I have found an approach called backwards planning or backwards goal-setting to be extremely helpful in completing daily tasks and long term goals. This mindset puts the focus on where you want to be at some point in time rather than concentrating mainly on where you are currently. To use this approach, first, picture your organization accomplishing a specific goal. Then, ask yourself what your organization would need to do just before that moment to reach the specific goal. In doing so, you have set a subgoal that will occur just prior to accomplishing the final goal. Repeat this step over and over again until you find yourself where you are currently. Retracing your steps from the finish line to the starting point will provide you with a roadmap to success by breaking down even the largest goals into smaller, more attainable pieces.
  5. Build individualized relationships in your organization. No two people are exactly the same. So why would you use the same approach to motivate members in your organization to accomplish a desired task? Your members are driven in their daily life by various factors, which will come into play when fulfilling their responsibilities in your organization. Thus, an effective leader will take the time to get to know each of his or her members on a personal level. By discovering the different reasons that each member joined, not only will you gain a better perspective of what they would like to see in the future, but you will also identify ways in which they can be inspired to help the organization reach its goals.
  6. Recognize others and share thanks. Oftentimes, the leader is looked to as the face of an organization. This can be a very humbling experience for many leaders, as you will be congratulated for nearly everything that the organization accomplishes, regardless of how involved you were with the process. An organization’s daily operation requires the hardwork of many people working together and thus an effective leader will always pass the recognition onto the general body or to those who were responsible for the feat.

Organizational leaders go to phenomenal efforts to see that goals are met and deadlines are reached. There may be times where you feel overwhelmed and overworked, but never let a day go by that you don’t thank those around you for the unconditional support that they offer you. In due time, you will see the work that you put in pay off through the positive impacts that you make on your organization and its members.

 

For the past year and a half, Matt has served as the Chapter President for Phi Delta Theta – Missouri Iota at Lindenwood University. Along the way, he has gathered countless pieces of information on how to be a more effective leader from personal experiences, lessons from other leaders, and many missteps.