INSPIRE: This is Why I’m Single

Welcome to the first installment of the INSPIRE series. This ‘list-icle’ is a piece about being single written by the fabulous Kayla. Enjoy and share!

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I’m sassy, sweet, and most definitely single. In a world of random hookups, relationships, multiple marriages, and overall jumping from partner to partner I remain a constant independent being. Now, I have nothing against the dating world and those who inhabit it (people should live their lives the way they want), but sometimes I’m not the most eager to become a part of it. I won’t completely shut it out, but I won’t pursue it either.

My single-ness is often the center of many, many jokes (made by myself of course). If you can’t laugh at yourself, no one else will. Anyway, there was a point where after any weird joke or silly pun I would laugh and tell my friends “This is why I’m single.” It often made the joke funnier. I said that phrase so many times I was told I should just write a book titled This is Why I’m Single. But before I contact any publishers, this super sassy blog post will have to do!

So, here are the top reasons why I’m single:

1.) I’m different: I’ve noticed that teenage girls and young women my age stress themselves out about finding a partner. I’m not going to lie to you, I stress out about it too. But sometimes girls allow that stress to take control and they try to find instant gratification from guys. Searching for attention often leads to attention from the wrong people, which leads to a kind of pain no one should go through. To save myself from such horrors, I’ve decided to avoid that gratification.

2.) My time is precious: The only games I play are board games. I’m a full-time student, athlete, and sorority woman with a busy schedule and active social life. That means I don’t like to waste my time. If I feel like someone’s intentions are not pure I’m not afraid to say bye. Treat me like a joke and I’ll drop you like it’s funny.

3.) I got it from my mama: The first, most important boss lady in my life is most certainly my mother. She raised me to be independent, intelligent, and strong. She also raised me to live life my way and never let a man tell you what to do. My parents’ marriage is strong because they treat each other like equals and show each other love and respect. I expect nothing less once I enter in an adult relationship.

4.) Everything happens for a reason: “Happy is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill the promises he made to her” (Luke 1:45) I am a big believer in that everything happens for a reason. I have complete trust in God’s plan for me, and right now His plan is for me to be single. I know that when the time is right a nice Godly man will come into my life and the story will write itself. If it takes a few tries before I find said Godly man, I have faith that it will work out in the end. But for now, I’m okay with waiting.

So, there you have it, folks, my reasoning for being single. I praise those who have a healthy dating life and I praise those who choose to be single. This post isn’t meant to insult or give instruction on how to handle your personal life, it’s meant to give perspective on my personal thoughts. Maybe you’ll agree with me, maybe you won’t. That’s okay. But maybe, regardless of your beliefs, you’ll see this as inspiration for a lovely life. Because living the life you want to live is the most important part of living.

xoxo,

Kayla

Kayla Schimmer is young college woman who likes her coffee to reflect her personality: sweet, a little bitter, and fully caffeinated. Some of her hobbies include blogging, bowling, and binge-watching Netflix. You can check out her blog (Sassy, Sweet & Single) at sassysweetsingle.wordpress.com. She can also be found on Twitter @realschimshady_ and Instagram @kaylamsch and wouldn’t mind some new followers. She’s a people person! 

 

Blush Graduation Dress

Guess what….I’m graduating college! After a long, arduous ride I have earned two majors, created lasting friendships and made a multitude of memories. In order to commemorate this exciting yet nerve wracking stage in life – I bought a new dress.  All the outfit details are below!

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Blush tones and classy A-lines are always on trend. You can find this Calvin Klein dress here.  The wedges are from a few years ago, but you can find the new version here, or similar ones here.

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I’m crazy about these ruffle sleeves.

 

More on graduation coming soon!

 

xx,

Rebecca

It’s Picture Time: 2017

Hi lovelies!

Today’s post is all about those photographs. Let me take you through the last couple of months in pictures.

 

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Captured by one of my great friends Abby, I titled this “Reflections”.

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Just a picture of me taking a picture of an ice cream cone.

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My favorite Easter dress of all time! Thanks Calvin Klein.

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Spring is the perfect time for hiking. My family and I hit the trails in April.

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Found this beautiful flowering tree on the above hike. Taken from Instagram.

How does your 2017 look in pictures? Let me know in the comments below.

 

Finals Guide: 25 Tips to Get Your Through the Week

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It’s that time again. The most dreaded week of any semester, a week sent to test student’s willpower, focus, determination and ability to survive on coffee. I asked my sorority sisters, friends and classmates for their studying tips and was overwhelmed with the response. Here is the compilation of the 25 best – somewhat – sarcastic tips for studying during this difficult week.

  1. Flash Cards. Make them and carry them around like precious gold. These babies will always work.
  2. Don’t binge watch Netflix… a.k.a. 13 reasons why You shouldn’t study.
  3. Study somewhere different. Switch up your study routine and go to a new environment. A change of scenery will help you focus.
  4. Sit up straight. Don’t study on your couch – you’ll fall asleep.
  5. Reward Yourself. Did you read a sentence? Eat a Skittle.
  6. Sleep. It’s better to get a couple hours of sleep than to study until your eyes glaze over.
  7. Memory games. If you’re trying to memorize those random facts about something that you’ll never need – make up a song/rap/poem or try ‘chunking’. It’ll make studying more tolerable.
  8. Don’t participate in Wine Wednesday. You’re welcome.
  9. Take a break. Hit up your closest pizza joint. It’s okay to let your brain relax for 30 minutes.
  10. Plan out your study times. Mark them down in your planner, phone or on your hand. As Nike says, just do it.
  11. Caffeine. This life staple will always rev up that old mind engine. Just don’t overdo it.
  12. Extra credit. One of my friends suggested crying in front of your professor. It’s been tried and approved.
  13. Take a Bath – it’s relaxing and also allows one to drown in one’s sorrows. But seriously, this is a great tip.
  14. Yoga. Speaking of relaxing, try a downward dog pose. It’s good for your brain.
  15. Watch a cat video. Just one…
  16. Music. Need some motivation? Put in those headphones and jam out. See my study playlist here.
  17. Take a short nap. A fifteen minute snooze fest is shown to increase brain function. Bonus points if you fall asleep on top of your books.
  18. Find a study buddy. Bounce questions off each other.
  19. Or lock yourself away in the library. To each their own.
  20. Stay off social media. It’s a dark hole of procrastination. Your ex’s best friend’s sister’s Facebook page will still be there later.
  21. Don’t go to work. Have a part time job or internship? Take off and bury your head in books.
  22. Ask for notes. Did you miss a day? A week? A month? Ask a classmate for the notes you missed.
  23. Interrogate the professor. Want to know how many questions are on the test? They usually answer.
  24. Figure out the lowest grade you can get on the final without failing the class.
  25. Or you can just do nothing. C’s get degrees.

So, there you go – 25 tried and true tips to get you through the week. Thank you to everyone who contributed to this list! Be brave my friends.

 

Study Hard,

Rebecca

A Little Bit of Spring

IMG_1776Spring is a paradox of good versus bad. Gorgeous flowers, loads of sunshine and pretty dresses all weigh in on the side of ‘good’. One word, allergies, sums up the ‘bad’.

Paying homage to this wonderful new time of year, here are a few pictures to commemorate Spring 2017.

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Swish around in pretty dresses, since it’s no longer snowing. Yes, I was mid-sneeze in this photo. Spring, you devil you.
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Welcome to the season of sunshine & allergies folks.

Find me on Instagram here.

 

xx,

Rebecca

 

Want to read similar posts? Check out the Festival Vibes Dress and the 3 Types of Spring Breakers.