Bible Verses to Help Combat Loneliness and Strengthen Friendship

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Friendships are a tricky avenue of life. They ebb and flow, they grow strong, they break, they dissolve. Friends keep you on your toes. They make you think outside the box. Friends entertain, thrill, admonish and encourage.

Recently, I’ve moved to a brand new city for a job. People move time and time again, but I didn’t realize how different and perhaps lonely a new city could be. Now, I am extremely grateful to Jesus for bringing my college roommate and I together again in this new town. The housing hunt, move and day – to – day would be more difficult with someone I didn’t know.

For all of you out there in the same situation as me (a tad lonely, homesick and anxious) I have a few tidbits of hope for you. This isn’t a how – to list or a city guide, but a list of a few Bible verses about loneliness and friendship that can help you put this new stage of life into perspective.

Friendship

1 Corinthians 15:33 –  Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”

Colossians 3: 12 – 14 – Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Proverbs 12:26 – The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.

Loneliness

Deuteronomy 31:6 –  Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

Psalm 25:16-17 – Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted. Relieve the troubles of my heart and free me from my anguish.

1 Peter 5:6-7  Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

May God bless you my friends in your time of need. May He lift up your spirit and encourage your heart. 

Feel free to comment below with any insights!

In His name,

Rebecca

13 Christian Songs for Every Worry

“You’re love never fails, it never gives up. It never runs out on me.” 

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Recently, the Netflix show 13 Reasons Why has been trending on social media. The show addresses topics such as suicide, anxiety and depression. These are serious topics that need to be discussed, prayed about and acknowledged.

When I’m anxious or feeling like life is slowly suffocating – I put in my headphones. Music is healing. God is healing. So here are my top 13 Christian songs to remind you that God’s love is infinite.

When You’re Feeling Hopeless- In Christ Alone

“In Christ alone, my hope is found; He is my light, my strength, my song.” Christian artist Lauren Daigle offers a beautiful rendition here.

When You Need to Feel God’s Forgiveness – The River

“I know a place where we can go, To lay the troubles down eating your soul. I know a place where mercy flows, Take the stains make you whiter than snow.” The fantastic Jordan Feliz wrote this rejuvenating song.

When You’re Feeling Broken – Hills and Valleys

“When I’m standing on the mountain aft, didn’t get there on my own. When I’m walking through the valley end, no I am not alone.” Tauren Wells has a God-given talent to make you feel God’s love.

When You Need to Know How Much Jesus Loves You – Drops in the Ocean

“If you wanna see how much you mean to me – Look at my hands, Look at my side.” The acclaimed band Hawk Nelson released this song in 2014.

When You Need to Feel God’s Strength – Giants Fall

“Don’t you be afraid of giants in your way. With God you know that anything’s possible.” The incredibly artistic Francesca Battestelli’s lyric video is here.

When You’re Feeling Trapped – Chain Breaker

“If you need freedom or saving, He’s a prison-shaking Savior. If you’ve got chains, He’s a chain breaker.” Zach Williams inspiring song will sing to your soul.

When You Need to Feel Inspired – God’s Not Dead

“My God’s not dead. He’s surely alive, He’s living on the inside roaring like a lion.” This was the theme song to the 2014 film God’s Not Dead.

When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed – Overcomer

“You’re an overcomer. Stay in the fight ’til the final round. You’re not going under, cause God is holding you right now.” Mandisa’s powerful song can be found here.

When You’re Feeling Frustrated – Now

“I’ll put one foot in front of the other. Take one breath and then take another. Lead the way, God, I’m gonna follow you.” New artist Mallary Hope’s music video just came out here.

When You Need to Feel God’s Salvation – God is on the Move

“Anytime in weakness someone falls upon their knees, or dares to speak the truth that sets men free. Anytime the choice is made to stand upon the Word.” 7eventh Time Down’s powerful song can be found here.

When You’re Feeling Shame – Greater

“Every day I wrestle with the voices that keep telling me I’m not right, But that’s alright.” Popular band MercyMe shows how God loves them no matter what.

When You’re Feeling Confused – Thy Will Be Done

“Distracted by the noise. Just trying to make sense of all your promises.” Hillary Scott, from country band Lady Antebellum, lays out every worry in her new song.

When You’re Feeling Thankful – Through All of It

Life’s been a journey. I’ve seen joy, I’ve seen regret. Oh and You have been my God through all of it.”  Colton Dixon’s song can be found here.

God Loves You. God Forgives You. God Accepts You.

May God Bless You and Keep You All,

Rebecca

If you or someone you know has suicidal thoughts or tendencies please call the National Suicide Hotline Number: 1-800-273-8255.

 

The Comparison Game

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Warning: It’s about to get real up in here. 

Let me lay it out for you. We all play the comparison game. Imagine a chess board. The goal is to win, to beat your opponent with minimum loss. Life is like a game of chess, but instead of playing someone else, you’re playing against yourself.

Here’s how I see life. Every individual is a unique creation; a daughter/son of God. Through experience and genes, you inherit a unique set of talents, looks and beliefs. No one is exactly the same. So, there’s one question I’d like to ask.

Why do we compare ourselves to others when we are meant to be one-of-a-kind?

A few days ago, I asked myself this same question. I was feeling run down, apathetic and discouraged. I felt like the world was attacking me at every point. At the end of my rope, I turned off my phone and ignored all forms of social media for a full 12 hours (so long…). It was like letting our a sigh of relief. I realized that throughout my day I was comparing myself to people via the Internet. Let me show you a sample day.

Morning: Wake up and check Instagram. Review other blogger’s fashion posts. Double tap all of my faves. Think that my posts aren’t up to snuff.

Class: Walk to class and settle in with a large bottle of water. Take stock of everyone around me. Think that the woman in front of me has gorgeous hair; why doesn’t mine look like that?

Internship: Run into the building a few minutes late. Pass by my co-workers office. Think that she always has her life together. Why can’t I just be better?

Gym Time: Get on my favorite treadmill. Pop in my earphones to listen to some Kanye. Think that the woman next to me has a much better body than mine. I should probably skip dessert more often.

At every point during the day, I am putting myself down physically, mentally and emotionally. I am being bullied by no one other than myself. I am an expert in playing the Comparison Game; it is ingrained into every part of my life.

So let me ask you, how do you play the Comparison Game? How does it control you? What can you do to lift yourself up?

I’ve learned to catch yourself being negative. Once you recognize negativity, you can address the problem. Learn your triggers. Address your fears. Read God’s word. Wipe that chess board clean.

Don’t be afraid to be different. Use your strengths and grow your weaknesses. Refuse to play the game.

xx,

Rebecca

Have any thoughts or questions? Let me know in the comment section below.

An Open Letter From a Girl Living With Anxiety

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Guest Post

Hi everyone! Today’s post is a little different. One of my dear friends wrote a letter that she wanted to share anonymously on Lovely Dusk.  Please read, share and spread the love.

To Whom it May Concern,

Unless you have anxiety don’t say you “understand.”  I don’t even understand it.  I can’t tell you why some days are harder than others. I can’t tell you why some days all I want to do is cry, while others I feel on top of the world. I can’t tell you why one small comment can change how my day is going. I can’t tell you why I’m always afraid everyone in my life is going to leave me, so I just push them away first. I can’t tell you, because I don’t understand it myself.

I don’t understand why some days I love myself and others I hate myself. I don’t understand why my mind never stops questioning why those in my life don’t hate me, or find me annoying, or push me to the side.

Here are the things I can tell you:

I can tell you that I would do anything for my friends and family. That I love with all my heart. That all I want to do is make those around me happy even when I can’t find happiness myself.

I can tell you that I know how to have fun. I value the people in my life more than anything.

I can tell you that it would be hard to find a friend that cares as much as I do.

I can guarantee that if you ever texted me and said “I just need someone right now” whether it’s someone to talk to, someone to distract you, someone to sit with, someone to make you smile, someone to cry with, or someone vent to, I’d be there.

I can tell you that I’m a good friend. I’m someone worth having in your life. All I want is to make everyone around me happy, and sometimes I forget about myself in the process.

I may have anxiety. I may have bad days, but I’m still worth it. 

You don’t have to say you understand. Just be there. Be there on the days I’m too busy caring for everyone else to care for myself. Be there when I need someone to talk to, cry to, vent to, or forget with. Just be there.

 

Sincerely,

A Girl Living With Anxiety

 

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This Election Sucked

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*A special Thursday post

I should probably warn you that this article does not include any statistics. It is my opinion of this political climate. Read at your own risk.

This election sucked.

If you stood for Clinton, you were berated by Republicans.

If you stood for Trump, you were berated by Democrats.

If you stood for an Independent, you were berated by everyone.

No matter who you voted for, at least one of your opinions was shot down by someone who called you racist, extremist, or some other “ist” that was said to make you feel terrible. People came out of the woodwork to proclaim their opinions on social media.

Yay, democracy.

For me, and I’m sure many others out there, this election was hard. I agreed with principles from all camps. I do not identify with one specific party.

Therefore, when Trump and Clinton were pitted against each other for the most important position in the United States, it sucked.

Election night happened. People got mad.

Trump became the 45th President of the United States. People got mad.

Women marched across the country. People got mad.

No matter what happens in this country, no matter what your personal opinion is, people are going to get mad. It happens.

Let’s all agree to do this: no matter who you voted for or which “side” you lean towards, let’s all agree on one thing.

This election sucked.