Welcome to the first installment of the INSPIRE series. This ‘list-icle’ is a piece about being single written by the fabulous Kayla. Enjoy and share!
I’m sassy, sweet, and most definitely single. In a world of random hookups, relationships, multiple marriages, and overall jumping from partner to partner I remain a constant independent being. Now, I have nothing against the dating world and those who inhabit it (people should live their lives the way they want), but sometimes I’m not the most eager to become a part of it. I won’t completely shut it out, but I won’t pursue it either.
My single-ness is often the center of many, many jokes (made by myself of course). If you can’t laugh at yourself, no one else will. Anyway, there was a point where after any weird joke or silly pun I would laugh and tell my friends “This is why I’m single.” It often made the joke funnier. I said that phrase so many times I was told I should just write a book titled This is Why I’m Single. But before I contact any publishers, this super sassy blog post will have to do!
So, here are the top reasons why I’m single:
1.) I’m different: I’ve noticed that teenage girls and young women my age stress themselves out about finding a partner. I’m not going to lie to you, I stress out about it too. But sometimes girls allow that stress to take control and they try to find instant gratification from guys. Searching for attention often leads to attention from the wrong people, which leads to a kind of pain no one should go through. To save myself from such horrors, I’ve decided to avoid that gratification.
2.) My time is precious: The only games I play are board games. I’m a full-time student, athlete, and sorority woman with a busy schedule and active social life. That means I don’t like to waste my time. If I feel like someone’s intentions are not pure I’m not afraid to say bye. Treat me like a joke and I’ll drop you like it’s funny.
3.) I got it from my mama: The first, most important boss lady in my life is most certainly my mother. She raised me to be independent, intelligent, and strong. She also raised me to live life my way and never let a man tell you what to do. My parents’ marriage is strong because they treat each other like equals and show each other love and respect. I expect nothing less once I enter in an adult relationship.
4.) Everything happens for a reason: “Happy is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill the promises he made to her” (Luke 1:45) I am a big believer in that everything happens for a reason. I have complete trust in God’s plan for me, and right now His plan is for me to be single. I know that when the time is right a nice Godly man will come into my life and the story will write itself. If it takes a few tries before I find said Godly man, I have faith that it will work out in the end. But for now, I’m okay with waiting.
So, there you have it, folks, my reasoning for being single. I praise those who have a healthy dating life and I praise those who choose to be single. This post isn’t meant to insult or give instruction on how to handle your personal life, it’s meant to give perspective on my personal thoughts. Maybe you’ll agree with me, maybe you won’t. That’s okay. But maybe, regardless of your beliefs, you’ll see this as inspiration for a lovely life. Because living the life you want to live is the most important part of living.
Kayla Schimmer is young college woman who likes her coffee to reflect her personality: sweet, a little bitter, and fully caffeinated. Some of her hobbies include blogging, bowling, and binge-watching Netflix. You can check out her blog (Sassy, Sweet & Single) at sassysweetsingle.wordpress.com. She can also be found on Twitter @realschimshady_ and Instagram @kaylamsch and wouldn’t mind some new followers. She’s a people person!